Tuesday, December 25, 2012

Life Notes: Worthless or Worthy?


Worthless or Worthy: How Do You See Yourself?

by Joyce Meyer
http://www.joycemeyer.org/articles/ea.aspx?article=worthless_worthy_how_do_you_see_yourself
Do you like yourself? After years of trying to help people emotionally, mentally, spiritually and socially, it was a major breakthrough when I discovered that most people really don't like themselves. Some of them know it, while others don't even have a clue that this is probably the root of so many other problems in their lives. 
God wants us to have great relationships, but self-rejection and even self-hatred are the roots of many relationship problems. In fact, I've found the Bible to be a book about relationships, providing valuable advice about my relationship with God, other people and even myself. 


How are the relationships with other people in your life? What about your relationship with God…and even with yourself? 
Did it ever occur to you that you have a relationship with yourself? While I've never given it much thought, I spend more time with myself than with anyone, and it's vital to get along well with me. Remember, you are the one person you never get away from. 
We all know how agonizing it is to work day after day with someone we don't get along with, but at least that person doesn't come home with us at night. We can't get away from ourselves, not even for one second, so it's of the utmost importance that we have peace with ourselves. 
Many of us fall prey to self-rejection because we feel that nobody really loves us or accepts us. We figure that if nobody else loves us, then why should we love ourselves? Because we think others don't love us, we feel that we must not be worth loving. But that's a LIE we've believed for way too long! 
We should love ourselves—not in a selfish, self-centered way that produces a lifestyle of self-indulgence, but in a balanced, godly way that affirms God's creation as essentially good and right. We may be flawed by unfortunate experiences we've gone through, but that doesn't mean we're worthless and good-for-nothing. 
We must have the kind of love for ourselves that says, "I know God loves me, so I can love what God chooses to love. I don't love everything I do, but I accept myself because God accepts me." We must develop the kind of mature love that says, "I know I need to change, and I want to change. In fact, I believe God is changing me daily, but during this process, I will not reject what God accepts. I'll accept myself as I am right now, knowing that I will not always remain this way." 
Many times people who reject themselves do so because they can't see themselves as good, proper, or right. They fail to see themselves the way God sees them—as precious children He dearly loves. 
As you begin to see yourself through God's eyes—someone who's loved and cherished—your view of yourself will begin to change. You'll begin to see yourself not as rejected, but as loved and accepted…unique and beautiful in His sight.

Life Notes: Self-image



Genesis 1:27
God created man in His own image, in the image of God He created him; male and female He created them.
Ephesians 2:10
We are [God's] workmanship, created in Christ Jesus for good works, which God prepared beforehand so that we would walk in them.
Do you like the person you see in the mirror every day?
Liking yourself relates to self-image, which is not limited to your physical appearance. Self-image includes the total you—personality, talents and abilities, accomplishments, desires and goals, and spiritual relationship with the Lord. Nearly all of your behavior is based on who you think you are and how you feel about yourself.
Ultimately, your self-image is linked to who you are in Christ Jesus. If you have a relationship with Christ, you have accepted—to at least some degree—the fact that God so loved you that He sent Jesus to die for your sins so that you could have eternal life. (See John 3:16)
Do you know today—with certainty—that:
God loves you infinitely, unconditionally, and eternally?
  • God stands ready to forgive you of all your sins and trespasses against Him and others?
  • Jesus Christ valued you so much that He died so you might live forever with Him in Heaven?
  • You are being transformed into the likeness of Jesus Christ as the Holy Spirit works within you?
Unfortunately, even people who can say yes to these questions sometimes have difficulty loving themselves. Friend, if God loves you and has forgiven you, you should love yourself. If God says you are valuable, you are!
But, no one can make you accept the fact that you are infinitely valuable to God. You must paint on your mental and emotional canvas the image that reflects what you believe to be true about yourself.
Holy, Blameless, and Loved
In his letter to the Ephesians, the apostle Paul wrote of the blessings we have because of our relationship with the Lord:
Blessed be the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, who has blessed us with every spiritual blessing in the heavenly places in Christ, just as He chose us in Him before the foundation of the world, that we would be holy and blameless before Him. In love He predestined us to adoption as sons through Jesus Christ to Himself, according to the kind intention of His will, to the praise of the glory of His grace, which He freely bestowed on us in the Beloved (Ephesians 1:3-5).
The apostle John wrote:
In this is love, not that we loved God, but that He loved us and sent His Son to be the propitiation [atoning sacrifice] for our sins (1 John 4:10).
As Christians, we are worthy because Christ declares us to be worthy.
The Comparison Trap
Some people continually gauge their performance by comparing themselves to others. They are much more concerned with being, having, owning, or achieving the best than in giving their best effort.
Nobody can be number one all the time. If you continually try to best those around you, you are likely to suffer a major blow to your self-image each time you come in second. The greater the failure, the greater the blow to the self-image.
Jesus Christ is established as our role model in the Scriptures. We are to grow up spiritually to become like Him. No, we will never be perfect. Even so, the Holy Spirit is at work in us to transform us more and more into His likeness.
If you are a Christian yielded to the Holy Spirit's work within you, you are not the same person today that you were last year. You are growing toward wholeness.
Every time you are tempted to compare your accomplishments with those of someone else, concentrate on doing your best.
Action
Write down the all the attributes and gifts God has given you according to 1 John 4:10 and Ephesians 1:3-5. Consider starting a list of verses that affirm your worth in Christ. Review those verses whenever Satan attacks you with feelings of condemnation or low self-esteem. 
Prayer
Lord, forgive me for trying to evaluate my worth based on the things the world says make me important. Transform my mind so that I see myself as you see me—a valuable child of God. Amen.

Adapted from Becoming Emotionally Whole: Overcome Negative Emotions and Become Happier and Healthier by Dr. Charles Stanley. 1996. p. 29-32.

Truth or Lie? Which one hurts most?

Why, oh why! Did I fuck up again?
He told me, he asked me,
I lied and lied again.
Didn't want you to know the truth,
The truth that I betrayed you.
You're so sweet and so kind
You deserve someone of your kind.
But I love you even though I'll never say.
Because it could be to late,
Should I say it anyway?
But I didn't prove it.
I strayed.
Hope I didn't lose you.
I guess I'll just pray.

How do you say "I'm sorry"?












Do you love me? (image)













Is death better then love?

Is death better then love?
It seems that way
At death you don't feel the pain
its not as great
yet when you die
do you really go into the skys
do you really meet god?
and tell him why you died?
Why did you died?
Was it bc of shame?
Lack of confidents?
did they love you?
I bet they did
Was that enough?
not sure if i did
death, your dirt, nothing but faults
but I feel that now
i am fealts
the world looks at me and smiles back
i look at my self and other see black
black is the color of my eyes
the color of my heart
the color when i died
you died inside
bc of me
will there be a day that you forgive me?
i guess not
i never was before
i know i wasn't ready
wasn't ready to love
bc i know my self
i know im not worthy
im nothing at all
i know that's my problem
no need to drap anyone else down with me
im messed up, that he now sees
i'm already died, that the world knows
and now i'm dead to him
and there goes my world
one pill at a time
down one oh so slow
dont want to live
i just want to go
one pill down
i'm going real slow
don't want to scream
i just want to go
i'm sorry i loved you
i'm sorry you fell for me
i made you cru
you made me breth
i saw a brand new me
 a me i taught was never there
i felt i had confident
bc you made sure i knew you cared
your love saved me
my love killed you
i can't do anything right
ill give up this fight
i will never win
bc i lost you, my stregth tonight
With you I had purpose
I had stregth
I felt like a women
Women who know who she was
I needed his love
To remine me

Dear emmy, Love Dubois - Do you love me?


Dear emmy,

Are you upset with me?
You love me sometimes,
Hate me the next?
Do you feel that I don't love you?
Do you feel that the world doesn't love you?
Mother didn't love you?
Your father left you?
Two most important people in the world,
The ones who brought us into this world.
Doesn't want you in this world?
Can't deal with that?
Can't fight this fight?
Em, you can't go on hurting like how you were hurt,
Or your life will just turn into dirt.
Dirt, no one wants to play,
Muddy, dark, and gray.
You're more than this, you are worth someone's time.
God loves you, he saved you every time.
Each time, you took a pill.
Each time, you drank to get ill.
The time, you laid out in the street.
Starving for love, someone to nourish me.
But if you don't love me, who will love me?
Dubois is you, and emmy is me.
Your heart is gold. Your soul is pure.
I know you feel beatin down, my the evils of the world.
Your rape. Your abuse.
Remember when you faced your attacker?
When he looked at your face with laughter.
That hurting you was fun and games.
Instead of a lifetime of hurt and pain.
But will you be just like him? Or your mom, who can hurt with a grin?
Will you hurt like how others hurt you?
Will you be any different? Are you the next fool?
A fool who pretends that everything is ok?
That you're not hurt, that you're ok?
Walking blind into your own demise?
Refusing to open your eyes?
You are NOT your hurts. They are not Dubois.
Nor are they emmy, Not Emmy Dubois!
Hold up your head, hold it and say,
"That today will be the day, it ends today"!
Today, I will bury the hurt and the guilt.
The failures, pain, hatred, and the self guilt.
The self rejection, the self harm,
The pill taking and suicidal thoughts.

Dear Dubois,
Pain was my reality. It took my sanity.
Dark was my light. Day was my night.
I walked solow ,empty all the time.
Fighting this fight, with all of my might.
I can't do this alone. I want to love, not be alone.
I don't want to hurt. Nor live in shame,
There's no one else, no one else to blame.
Just me, it's me. I'm being too hard.
What about the good things, all that I've done?
The unstoppable em, the unbeatable woman?
The one that used to sit and dream about the world.
The one who discovered new things,
Who love life.
The world was her playground, with so much to explore,
A new adventure awaits, just outside the door.
Why let this pain steal that away?
Why die an early age?
When I have someone that loves me so much?
It's you Dubois! It's you that I love!
Oh Dubois, where have I been?
Living yet dying, living in sin.
Breathing yet stealing the life away from myself.
I want to breathe. I want to live.
Not in fear, not in sin.
The world scares me, because I don't want to be raped again.
I don't want to be robbed of my life again.
I spend two years grieving my lost,
The lost of my innocent and everything i was.

Dear emmy,
Then you must forgive, my dear em, forgive what he has done.
Forgive the one that bear you your son.
Forgive the woman that hit you all the time.
Forgive so you can let it go.
They will be evil, don't be their shadow!
Don't be the person that you hate,
Forgive them so you can join your saint.
Your Saint! Your Saint! You birthed him.
He who is here, so worship him.
For he reminds you what life is all about,
For he shows you what real love looks like.
Sweet, kind and smile at hand.
He hugs you even when you grin.
Be his hero! Live a unselfish life.
Don't do it, don't give up your fight!
The fight, of loving you. The way you are.
For you ARE good enough. You are the star.

Dear Dubois,
I love you. Thank you.

Dear em - I know, I love you too.